Reflection and Gestation

Quarantine reminds me of reflection and gestation. Learnings from past experience. Breathing in the here and now. Listening to baby goats, the sounds of birds and the gentle waves on the shoreline. Sunrise coffee on the rooftop. Throughout the days, imaginings, visions, ideas percolating and surfacing. So many, what ifs? Opportunities to dream of possibilities! 

Gestation is a time of internal growth, development, maturation and preparation to live in the external world.

“Accepting the challenges of creating the outer mandala allows the inner mandala to emerge and the inner path to unfold. By embracing as much vision as possible, one discovers higher motivation, deeper commitment, stronger faith, and self-confidence.” Tarthang Tulku

I keep this phrase and mandala image on my altar as a reminder of the inner journey that is inherent to every external creation. A reminder to focus on the experience and let go of attachment to an exact  outcome, and at the same time remember, there will be an outcome.

Years ago, a friend asked me this question:

Are you process or goal oriented?

I am both, process and goal oriented. 

Experience is a good word. Experience leads to learning. Embodied learning leads to integration and wisdom.

Think about all the experiences in your life. Every experience is part of an unfolding personal story. Each experience has led you to this very moment in time and place you are on earth. Where you are now - your inner and outer world - will influence how your life unfolds when the quarantine is lifted.

Have you thought about experiences and wished you’d done anything differently?

I do. Sometimes. Who doesn't?

Then I remember. One experience leads to another. If one thing happened differently, I wouldn’t be exactly where I am now with the understanding earned. Every day there is an opportunity to learn. I cannot go back and change anything. Life doesn’t move backward. It does give us time to reflect and integrate. Sometimes, if we are lucky, we get second chances.

Imagine this time as an opportunity for reflection and gestation.

What do you want to create?

What is your motivation?

For a designer, drawings are conversations on paper with lines that tell a story. They inform the designer. What does work and what doesn’t? I am always looking for the bugs. These bugs represent the challenges that will require a creative solution. Thinking outside the box. 

Before building our home and over the years, as we built in phases, I drew stacks of drawings. Developing a myriad of ideas into practical scenarios and working through the bugs informed the beautiful home we live in now.  Nothing is lost in the experience. Learning is embodied and influences how I see the world.

I am a tactile and visual learner. 

How do you learn? What kind of learner are you?

What experience do you embody? And how does that awareness affect how you see the world through your unique lense?

With a design mind, I see the world more clearly. My vision and mind are sharper when I think like a designer than when I do not. That is the inner mandala at work. I sidelined this perspective for a handful of months. Going into quarantine, I opened a door to see from this perspective once again. The design lense relies on keeping that part of my mind open to possibility, integration and owning this part of myself. Keeping it alive adds a certain spark to how I see now and imagine a future.

Integration leads to wholeness and healing.

I reflect back on this past winter. Lots of Yin and Restorative yoga. Last winter was probably the the coldest in Baja history. I think of all the blankets we used to stay warm during a practice that naturally lowers a person’s body temperature. Everything in me said, keep doing what you are doing. That didn’t make sense to my previous approach, which was, adapt a practice and class to the current temperature. Now, the quarantine. It makes sense. The practice of stillness, letting go and being in preparation for a time of reflection and gestation. 

Yin is the art of letting go. 

Restorative is the art of being. 

What happens to all the drawings, writings, conversations, traveling, creative endevours, lessons, imaginings manifested and unmanifested? They live within each one of us, informing how we see the world, broadening our inner landscape, opening our minds and hearts to further experiences unfolding. Experiences we may not even imagine, we are preparing for, with each day and encounter or solitude experienced.

I keep the Yogatantra mandala on my altar as a reminder of the marriage between my inner and outer world. One is continuously informing the other.

The poem below was inspired by a friend who was pregnant several years ago and regularly attending my classes. The writing was intended for an expectant mother, as well as, for those of us who are not carrying a new living being within us. The reminder of possibilities and new ways of being in the world.

Pea in the Pod

In honor of any and all new life 
growing within you.

Whether this new life 
is another being
or another way of being,
an idea, a vision or other.

Rest and renew.

Allow this life to gestate
sheltered, loved and 
supported within.

Every in breath nurtures,
every out breath allows.

This new life may carefully grow,
blooming into new possibilities.

A new way of life,
intimate being.

Tehroma

What is Essential?

ESSENTIAL

I hear and see this word a lot these days.

According to Antoine de Saint-Exupery, from his book, The Little Prince,

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

If I look up 'essential' in the New World Dictionary of the American Language, here is what I find:

Essential, as an adjective:

1.       Of or constituting the intrinsic, fundamental nature of something; basic; inherent

2.       Absolute; complete; perfect

3.       Absolutely necessary; indispensable; requisite

4.       Containing, or having the properties of, a concentrated extract of a plant, drug, food

Essential, as a noun:

1.       Something necessary or fundamental; indispensable; inherent or basic feature or principal

What is essential in this moment?

Your breathing and the fact that you are breathing.

If you are reading this piece, then it is safe to assume that you are breathing.

The quality of your breathing is directly related to the quality of your experience, moment to moment, day by day.

Imagine the breath and how you breathe as a reflection of the current state of your heart, mind, body and soul.

Just for a moment, imagine all the current information circulating. Social media, the news, email, forwards that your friends and family sent you just in case you did not see it in your personal feed or inbox. The intentions, I choose to believe, are good and come from a place of wanting to protect our loved ones, making sure we are all as informed as possible. However, how much information is essential to your health, short and long term?

There are commonalities shared during this pandemic and historic time on earth. Our wants and needs may differ depending on where we live, our socioeconomic status, cultural backgrounds, whether there is money in the bank, food on our table, we are alone or not, whether sleep was achieved or ellusive the night before, the current state of our health and that of our loved ones, as well as, the state of our hearts, bodies, minds and souls. The variables are countless.

One thing we have in common is the fact that we all breathe. Our lungs surround the heart. When we breathe, air moves along the back of the throat, our lungs expand. A reminder of life and energy circulating within. We are alive and we are sharing this time on earth. Living our unique experiences. 

Your throat chakra (energy center) is related to your capacity to listen deeply and communicate your truth. Creative communication. Your ability to listen to yourself, others and the silence in between.

In yogic philosophy, Satya, is the second of the yamas and means “truth”.  

In order to see with the heart, it is necessary to practice the art of being still and listening deeply. 

To all those deemed essential in the work force, our frontline workers, my heart and gratitude abound for your presence, talents, knowledge and service. To all the volunteers, all of us working in some way to constribute towards safety and health of our neighbors and loved ones, near and far, the unity felt is palpable. 

In some way, shape or form, we have the opportunity to pause, check in and listen. Possibly more now than ever imagined before.

The first time it was mandated that I stay home and be still was during my second pregnancy. Just shy of six months, I began experiencing real contractions. The threat of premature labor. This was before yoga or meditation were formally introduced in my life. At first, my doctor prescribed partial bedrest. I was allowed to work half days. Twenty nine years old and driven. It was challenging to slow down. I pushed the limits. Then, I was prescribed full bedrest plus three different meds. One of the side effects was tachycardia. Be still and feel your heart race, was what I heard in my mind.

For the first two weeks, I felt like I was climbing the walls and did everything I could to find entertainment. Books, magazines, tv. I watched Doctor Phil. That wasn't working for me. The beeping of dump trucks moving around the neighborhood while houses were being built was a constant.

Then, I realized that I might never experience this much quiet again. I was learning how to listen around and between the beeps. Maybe years would pass before being this still might happen in my life again.

I learned how to be still, to listen deeply and to be with my own company. My concerns regarding employment were minimal. There were designs on the table, the office staff and crew could stay busy. And, I could play a small part and do some drawing while laying down. I also put together our wedding album while on my back. I remember the imitation orchid flowers blooming outside the window. Rain. Broccoli and eggs with cheese that Javier would make me for breakfast. The rhythm of my husband and son coming and going from our home set a pace for our days.

That was just one family, one time and income was constant. Although, it should be said that self-employment is, I have learned, synonymous with un-employment and there have been many times in our lives when funds were not coming through the door. I learned to be creative during those times. Re-inventing oneself and refreshing a brand is mandatory in the business world in order to evolve with the rest, survive and thrive.

Now, there are countless families at home. Ours included. Many are unemployed. As are we. Mostly. I have two outdoor living designs on my table. They fuel my spirit and contribute to the bank account and still, they will only go so far in keeping either one of us employed until we can formally go back to work again. Like many, we contribute in various ways towards moving funds to ensure there is food on more tables than our own. Saved for a rainy day. Now, it is raining.

What is essential? Breathing, life, food, health, safety, community, connection, compassion, kindness, love, pressing pause on our differences – in particular right now – recognizing there are different ways to practice self care and contribute to the health and wellbeing of our fellow human beings. Choosing to believe that we are all doing our best to be safe and protect one another. That may sound dreamish and yet, why not? Positivity is contagious. Connection is essential.

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in twenty five plus years of building is, Do what you can. Today. There are always bumps and setbacks in design and build. Hitting a wall of what cannot get done is built into the field. Materials don’t arrive on time, a team member loses a family member and is off work indefinitely, clients take time to make decisions, the architect needs to see more building developed before proposing details and finish ideas that will make a creation sing, the engineer is putting together an estimate that is dependent on the prices supplied by suppliers and subcontractors. The list goes on. The interconnectedness of us all is inherent in the game. Frustration is high on the experience of design and build as is constantly being reminded of what cannot be or get done, either momentarily or ever, alone. The practice of patience is key to sanity and wellbeing. Pushing the edge and constantly looking at what CAN be done is essential if you ever dream of designing or building, anything, for yourself or another.

Building is a lesson in resiliency, working together and continuing to move forward regardless of the myriad of setbacks presented daily.

We all have different lenses and our experiences are unique. However, as long as we all shall live, we will breathe, our hearts will beat and we can, if we choose, cultivate the art of listening deeply and seeing with our hearts.

On that note, I offer you an inquiry:

What is essential to you?

What do you see?

When you listen deeply, what do you hear?

When we share our personal experiences, perspectives, our unique truths, there is an opportunity to connect at a deeper level. A possibility to know one another. To see each other.

After your inquiry, and if you feel moved to do so, feel free share a personal story on your own page - tag Healing Winds, if you will, please. 

Recognize your voice as a valuable bridge between your mind and heart. When you know that truth within you, that leads to healing, wholeness, peace and wellness. When you share that authentic voice, your truth and exprience, that is a gift to others. 

When we share our authentic voices and cultivate the art of listening deeply, we hone our ability to connect with each other. Heart to heart.

What is essential? Love. Connection. In order to survive and thrive, we need one another.

Thank you for reading and for being. If this writing has inspired you in any way, please pass it on.

Wishing you health, love and peace,

Tehroma

P.S. At the beginning of every week, I choose a topic for my writing that happens at the end of the week. At dinner last night, with my husband, twenty two year old son and fifteen year old daughter, I mentioned that I had written this piece. Then, I looked at my daughter's shirt. The word ESSENTIAL was written across the front :) I said, your shirt! She looked down, looked at me, smiled and said, I AM ESSENTIAL! So true. And so are YOU!

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I started writing and sharing in the fall of 2015. Sporadically.  

At onset of this year,  I committed to writing and sharing one post a week. 

This is probably the hardest year to stick to it. 

All the more reason to write and share. From the heart.

I am Building a New Life

I am at home, on vacation, mostly unemployed and in the middle of a pandemic.

We came home in stages.

Paloma was first to leave school. Dylan and I followed. Javier is home this week.

In the beginning, I said to the family: this is not a vacation. Every day is a new day and we are shifting into a new way of living. In some way, we always are. This time, it’s mandatory and global.

This is holy week. Semana Santa. This week, we get a vacation. One of my favorite kinds. A staycation.

We are fortunate to live in a beautiful home, to be with each other, to have a full fridge and pantry. The yard is landscaped from years of planting and those plantings voluntarily multiplying. We have places to be when it is windy outside, like today. Legs extended in the window seat, a cup of coffee on the window sill, a cat licking his paw on the other end. Now, Dylan and Paloma are petting Hobbes. Ollie is looking out the window. Probably looking for iguanas. Suddenly, we have a window seat gathering. The conversation at the end has turned to wondering if Hobbes ever wanted to be a parent, how pets are as parents, how kittens need homes and me recording this conversation trying to remember the writing I was creating in my mind while walking up and down the hill this morning with Javier.

The first time I heard someone say, ‘I am building a new life’, I was around twelve. A friend of my mom’s had her first child and went to stay with her mother in law several hours away from our place in Eastern Oregon. One day, we spoke on the phone and I asked her when she was planning on coming home. She replied, I am building a new life here and this is becoming my home.

I am building a new life and feeling fortunate for the opportunity, ability and availability of walking and hiking daily with Javier. I have imagined a time in our lives when we could start our day, as we do, sharing coffee before and with sunrise, with the addition of a morning walk or hike together before tending to the rest of our day. Now, we have time.

Never before have I valued so deeply all our surroundings and each other.

Gratitude for this life has always been an inherent part of the day. Now, more than ever.

Everything is now. No time to lose, no time to waste.

Dreams and imaginings of another time are just that. And fuel for the soul.

This is a time of continued opening, exploring, feeling - and being taken aback privately by parts of it - integrating.

Grateful to be surrounded by all this beauty and family. Good food. Loving pets. The pleasure of reading a book and to be in no rush or feel rushed.

I am learning and relearning that simply being is enough.

This vacation in the middle of a pandemic while being mostly unemployed technically ends Monday. I have online work to do. Plus a patio design project I am excited to dig into. Pandemics have a tendency to change the course of our lives and reopen doors imagined closed. A surprising reopening infused with delight. Life is full of surprises and delights unimagined or not dared to imagine.

How much can we dream, imagine and plan when we are surrounded by the reality of the unknown?

And isn’t that the truth of our everyday lives, always?

I am building a new life in which walking with Javier five days a week is happening. This is a priority. Our work must wrap around our health and wellbeing.

Walking is a metaphor for life. We can only see so far ahead. We can feel our feet touch the ground, breathe, see and feel this moment. One step at a time.

When we travel, my priority is being able to walk and have places to enjoy walking. I especially love trails in the desert and forests. I love mountains. I also enjoy walking in wide open space.

In Ireland several years ago, while we were in Kinsale and out on a walk, on two occasions, dogs followed us. As if they were our own. Out for a walk with their owners. We had to turn around on both occasions and place them inside their gates. As if we were their owners.

During that same family trip, while on the island of Inishmore, while walking, a lady stopped and asked me for directions: Do you know the way? I loved how she worded her question. That was all she said. I think about it often as I take one step at a time and continue walking through this adventure called life.

The significance of that family adventure was to mark the milestone of Dylan’s high school graduation and move through that threshold as a family. Originally, I was going to make that trip alone as I was drawn to a Celtic Spirituality retreat with Sean Johnson, an artist and yoga teacher from New Orleans. Luckily, a better idea surfaced and we made lifetime memories for our family as we flew overseas and traveled together.

On the following year, Paloma and I returned to celebrate another threshold crossing, the end of her childhood years and beginning of adolescence. We went on a half day retreat with Mary Meighan in Kildare. The day was dedicated to Paloma and she was instructed to walk in front of me as I walked behind her and allowed her space to begin venturing forward into this new phase of her life that will increasingly move her further into a realm of independence.

We all fell in love with Ireland and have often talked about returning together. I have wondered since that time, how we can recreate the feeling we experienced there, right here.

I was drawn to Ireland for several reasons. I am sure one of them is hereditary and family history from my mom’s side of the family. However, I have never felt a pull to visit Lithuania or Poland or Russia from my dad’s side of the family. Or, at least not yet. And now, the thought of travel is the furthest thing from my mind or wish list. The main reason was a resonance through the readings of John O’Donohue. Celtic wisdom is infused with a reverence for life and the spirituality of living life minute to minute. There is no formula. Everything is sacred.

This time at home, just the four of us, reminds me of a feeling we shared in Ireland and I am as grateful for that time then as for this time together now.

I think of those who are far from loved ones, who are not riding out this time wrapped in safety and surrounded by beauty. My prayers for healing goes out to those are ill or have lost loved ones, concern for the overall economy, compassion for those who feel fear and empathy for those experience anxiety or depression.

While I am mostly unemployed, I do have a wide range of skills and creative opportunities to work. I appreciate this down time to assimilate what I have to offer online and in person. I am grateful for a pause to understand and feel my worth without a monetary value or connection. This is the most unemployed I have been in my entire adult life.

I am building a new life. I am not waiting for anything to end. There is no going back. Normal has a new definition, by the hour or by the day. Routines and self-care are my anchor. Recognizing the importance of mental health and its link to meditation, I enrolled and began taking a course on teaching meditation to delve deeper into the various styles of meditation and widen my range in teaching.

Yoga and meditation are – like they are for many – my anchor, medicine and link to working and connecting with my own mind, body and spirit.

I dream of going back to the studio, teaching yoga and meditation in person again. I imagine changes in offerings based on this time away from teaching. I am grateful to see the variety of online yoga and meditation classes available for those who wish and need to take classes with a teacher.

I imagine an opportunity at this time for practitioners to create or deepen a personal yoga and meditation practice on and off the mat. A time to discover the yoga within that is ready to be expressed in a unique way that is inherent to the individual practitioner. If you have been practicing for some time now, I offer you the same words offered to me by my trusted teacher when I started taking classes many years ago, five minutes. Show up on your mat for five minutes and see what happens. That is how I began building a personal practice over ten years ago.

Dreams of sharing the studio with other teachers and instructors is also front and center. Dreams of offerings at Healing Winds and how we may grow in person again someday with our participating community. Dreams of creating are like fuel for my soul. As is, what I can create today. I started a new painting. More of Baja on paper. More note cards to print later!

I appreciate an opportunity to participate now in supporting our community in the various ways that have come forward through emails or inspirations online. Each one of us plays a part in recognizing our connection on a daily basis. We guide and inspire one another by example, we support one another by showing up where we are needed, by staying home when we are asked to, through collective breathing and being and in that way, we create a new life, every day, together.

And every day, I see the opportunity and necessity to forgive and let go and to move forward with openness, optimism, vision, clarity and love. The only way forward is love.

I am building a new life. This is my life. Every day, this is my mantra.

Hearing Meditation

Hearing Meditation

From a month long meditation course with Sharon Salzberg

Picture taken during road work outside Healing Winds last fall. We used this meditation in class as a way to work with the sounds outside the studio during yoga classes and meditation at that time. I use this practice at home, when traveling, during large social events when the combination of sounds borders on overwhelming, in nature to tune into the subtleties and deep silence. Anywhere and everywhere. It is a very portable practice and I teach it often in my classes. There have been many times and in different places where I found the noise to feel overwhelming. This practice has helped notice the space between the sounds, as well as, their natural ebb and flow. Normally, there is no heavy machinery outside during class but when there was, this practice helped hone in on the space between the beep beeps and accept the meditative drone. Any amount. While most of the world is at home, with houses and neighborhoods full, this practice may be a gem to keep in a personal tool box. The practice is outlined below, touching on the breath as we get to the hearing meditation itself.

"A classic foundational exercise in meditation is focusing on the feeling of the in-and-out breath.

The breath is chosen, they say, for many reasons.

For one thing, you don't have to believe anything in order to feel yourself breathe.

You don't have to call yourself a Buddhist or a Hindu or reject anything else.

If you are breathing, you can be meditating.

It's also said that the breath is very portable. (The same can be said of sound.)

This is a good meditation in and of itself. And it also serves as a good alternative to the breath. If for physical reasons like asthma, or some emotional reasons that affect your breathing, you find settleing your attention on your breath more unsettling than settling.

Take a comfortable seat.

Recognize that sound is continually coming and going outside of our control.

One of the ways this meditation is used is to show us that we can actually meet any experience with greater clarity, openness, spaciousness, and kindness, even as we like certain sounds and don't like others.

We don't have to chase after them to hold on or push away, fretfully trying to seize control over that which we will never have control over.

Some beautiful wonderful sounds arise, others are quiet unpleasant or jangly.

Unless you are responsible for responding to the sound, this is a time when you can actually practice simply being present.

Notice the sound for what it is, you don't have to elaborate with a story or opinion, simply hear.

Eyes can be open or closed (gaze resting - eye lids soft).

Hear the sounds that arise and pass away as though they are washing through you.

There's nothing you need to do about these sounds.

You don't need to respond.

You needn't try to stop them, whether it's the sound of my voice, or other sounds, some near, some far, some welcome, some not so welcome.

Maybe it's the sound of traffic or the wind rustling in the trees.

In either case, it's simply sound rising and passing away.

You can notice changes in intensity and volume.

As the sound washes through you, without interference, without judgement, you don't have to send your ears out to listen.

Relax deep inside.

Create a vast sense of space, in which sound is rising and falling, rising and falling.

If you find yourself getting tense or craving more of a sound, take a deep breath, simply relax.

The sound will pass away without regard to our clinging or condemning.

Simply notice that sound arises.

We have a certain response to it.

And there's a little space in between those two.

Stay open for the appearance for the next sound.

And when you feel ready, you can open your eyes and relax.

You can reflect on the difference you experienced between resisting a sound and simply hearing it.

Following out after a sound, and simply being with it.

See if you can take some of that understanding into your day.

We don't meditate to get better at meditating. We meditate to get better at life."

Sharon Salzberg

A Return To Privacy

During the current Coronavirus Pandememic, while the world is in various degrees of quarentine, I wonder how public our lives need to be. I am learning and living into an answer that feels true to me personally: less than I believed before.

Under normal circumstances, how much do I need to publish on social media, websites, emails, etc. in order to live a creative, productive, happy, healthy and connected life that is beneficial to the health and wellbeing of myself and others, the services publicly offered and a life that is planetarily and economically sustainable.

How many times do I need to share what I do for a living and how many ways do I need to say the same thing? 

Had I reached a time in my life when saying the same thing over and over again became normal? 

What would it look like to quarentine my energy, sensitivity and sanity. This sounds restorative. 

As I become quieter, I feel a sense of freedom in not having to continuously share what I am and am not doing.  Who cares what I am doing, offering, creating, producing and if I am happy? Who cares how I use and regenerate this lifeforce energy, how I care for interior sensitivity and maintain mental and emotional sanity?

I care. I am the one person who I spend twenty four hours of every day in company with. I have been here breathing my whole life and in this body from day one and will until the final day of my life in this form on earth. When I connect with the entirety of my being and feel that deep sense of care, I feel connected to all living beings on the planet. 

Family and friends care. As I care for them, their creativity, productivity, happiness and overall well-being. The caring is mutual. The energy goes both ways.

Students and clients care. As I care for them, their health and overall well-being. Again, the energy goes both ways.

There is also the wisdom of knowing that people I may not know personally also care just as I care for others who I may not know personally. 

The planet cares. I walk on this earth every day. I care about my foot print, how much space I take up, sustainability, presence and making the most of every day of life and opportunity to create, be productive, of service, happy and simply be a person whos existence contributes to a sense of calm and peace on earth. Especially in the midst of a pandemic.

This morning I enjoyed a hot cup of coffee on a cool back porch covered with a soft gray blanket while listening to birds and appreciating the beauty of all the succulents in bloom. Plus a vine with periwinkle flowers that I have been waiting sometimes impatiently to bloom.

Later, I walked to meeting a place as friends arrived and we hiked in the nearby mountains. I am grateful for these legs to carry me, a healthy heart that beats and lungs that breathe. Eyes to see and appreciate the sea, desert plants and notice how mountains that look tall from below become shorter and underfoot as we reach different hill tops.

I often wonder how much I need to share publicly in order to sustain a living offering the various services I carry in my invisible tool box. In this time of quarentine, I am grateful for a new degree of quiet and a certain return to privacy. Transitions are not always as graceful as I would like for them to be, whether I have handled them privately or publicly. Clumsiness and grace may be two sides of the same coin. 

While I share these thoughts on an invitation and return to privacy, I want to share how much I enjoy sharing pictures of our pets, family, home, yoga, surroundings, art, writing, things that inspire and uplift my spirit. By that same token, and in equal measure, I appreciate the sharings of others that inspire and motivate, communicate and remind me of our inherent connection, no matter where we are on the globe.

These wonderings are personal,  having only to do with the work that I specifically do. I have been in business my entire adult life and worn many hats. Sharing, putting the word out there and smart marketing is part of business promotion. Of the latter I am clear. I am looking at my own approach in the interest of experiencing an alignment of creativity and offerings of service without feeling overly put out there by my own actions to inform or remind people of what I can do.

There are many ways to contribute to a sense of calm during these challenging times. I do not underestimate this event. I feel we are shifting into a new normal. At the very least, the opportunity is here. Shifting and changing can be uncomfortable and scary. Yet, the more I can be right where I am, feel my feet on the ground and sound of my breath, the more at ease I feel. In recent days, I have felt the sadness and fear in the world. That sadness and fear isn't new. At this time, it seems front page. 

Also on the front page of our time on this earth, I see and experience many blessings and ways to return to a feeling of newfound safety, calm, peace and ease. A call home and sense of feeling at home in my own being. An opportunity to do less. Be more still. A sense of deep connection. And the literal act of feeling at home in this dwelling that surrounds me, puts a roof over my head and floor under my feet.

In this time of reflection, there are many inner questions. One of the questions I hear is, how well and how much can I be with myself and the entirety of my ever changing experience? How can I live day to day with creativity, flexibility, compassion and a well rounded existence under unusual circumstances? The answer changes day by day, hour by hour and sometimes minute by minute. The range of emotions is vast and deep.

There is the reminder that as I am able to feel sadness, I am also capable of deep joy. And vice versa. Sadness and joy are two sides of the same coin. As I deepen my capacity to feel sadness, I expand my ability to feel joy. As I practice breathing the moments of anxiety instead of numbing or distracting, I practice the art of transmuting that energy and use it as fuel for creativity. This energy goes into cooking, cleaning, creating art, gardening, yoga, coaxing my husband to join me for yoga, walking with him, sharing openended time with our kids. When I can breathe with the rawness of a human emotion, I am deepening my capacity to feel human and connect with that humanness in those around me. Whenever I feel a sense of release and relief, I am creating space for creativity, productivity, happiness, sanity and connection with myself as well as others.

I can only speak for and from my own experience. Life is full of ironies, such as sharing publicly my thoughts on a return to privacy. A newfound sense of privacy. One thing,  I do know for sure. Ollie and the rest of our pets are thrilled to have us home. I love this time with them, too.

A Holistic Approach to Reducing the Effects of Stress in Times of Uncertainty

A Holistic Approach to Reducing the Effects of Stress in Times of Uncertainty

When we are under constant stress, we feel dis-ease. When we are relaxed, we feel a sense of ease. When we feel at ease, we relax and our heart, body, mind and soul have an opportunity to restore and regenerate health on all levels.

The reality is:

All we have is today.

And, all you really have to do is today.

One breath and one minute at a time.

Somewhere it is written, if you take care of the present, the future will take care of itself.

In this moment, wherever you are, take notice of your breathing. The rhythm of your inhale and exhale, their duration and where sensation in your body is most prominent. These are all a reflection of the state of your mind in this very moment in time. Is there any space between your inhale and the release of breathing out? How about after you exhale, is there any amount of space, however brief, before your body naturally draws in the following breath?

Current events are inviting us to slow down, return to privacy, connect with the earth, prioritize and  remember:

What makes you feel alive?

What will you do to make the most of this precious gift called life? Today?

In order to understand the meaning of a holistic approach to reducing the effects of stress in times of uncertainty, it helps to break it down:

What is the meaning of holistic? Imagine the whole picture. Imagine that every part of you is connected: your heart, body, mind and soul are in constant interplay, one aspect of your life creatively informing another. You are a whole being and when one part is “off”, another part also falls out of place. By that same token, when one part of you feels “on”, other parts of you fall into place.  Imagine a domino effect that can go either way, towards your sense of ease or dis-ease.

Think about your heart. Happiness is good for your heart and strengthens your immune system. What makes you happy? What inspires joy? Bliss? What reminds you of the inherent connection shared between your existence and all living beings? Happiness also improves your sleep, reduces stress levels and pain, improves productivity, inspires creativity, improves mental health, can lengthen your life expectancy, promotes a healthy life style and improves your overall cardiovascular health. Your heart is surrounded by your lungs. When you breathe, you communicate with and massage your heart from the inside. How is your breathing now?

Think about your body. Imagine a building. How would you love to live in a space you are imagining? Your home, a second skin, an outer dwelling, a tangible building? Now, how do you want to live in the space you already inhabit? Your first home on this earth, your body, your first skin, your mobile dwelling?

Now think about your mind and the current relationship you share with your inner world. Imagine the connection between your breathing and your mind. If your breathing is short and shallow, there is a good chance your mind is busy. By that same token, if your mind is racing, there is a good chance that your breathing will mirror that pace. There is a direct relationship between your mind and your breathing. How do we slow down our racing minds? Slow down your breathing. In particular, slowing down your exhale. For the next minute, simply take notice of how you let go. Notice the subtleties in your exhalation. Bring your attention to the beginning, middle and end of your exhale and stay with it until there is nothing left to release. After you reach the end of the exhale, notice the pause. However brief. Notice the space between the breaths. A portal to inner peace and tranquility. Your body will naturally draw in the following breath. Again, stay with your exhale until you reach the end and again, you visit this place of stillness. However brief. Do this for one minute. On average, humans breathe 15 breaths per minute. This changes depending on the circumstances. Another way to practice is to close your eyes and practice ten breaths in this manner, counting the breaths on each finger of both hands. There are many breathing practices available to stimulate your parasympathetic nervous system, your ability to rest and digest, to relax and feel a sense of ease. This is merely one practice. Imagine a sense of ease available to you, anywhere and anytime. All you have to do is check in with your breathing. Slow down the exhale. The rest will take care of itself.

Now think about your soul. Your aura. Your energetic body. Your energy and your breathing. Again,here is the relationship between your breathing and connection to your soul. Imagine a soulful existence that enlivens your being and provides a sense of continual connection. Imagine your connection to nature. If you are in Baja, then there is a part of nature that fuels your soul. What do you love? The water? Mountains? Both? Now, imagine the opposite of nature: electronics, social media, and devices. Everything serves a purpose. Begin to notice how each one of these elements makes you feel. Where do you feel relaxed? More of that! What causes anxiety? Less of that! Which way do you direct the domino effect?

How do you reduce the effects of stress in times of uncertainty? Check in with your heart, body, mind and soul. Continually. Trust the innate wisdom of your being. You are in Baja where beauty abounds. Beauty strengthens the lungs. Be where you can breathe easily and you will feel at ease. Stress will melt away. Even if only momentarily. The practice of living with ease is like strengthening a muscle. Resilience training. When you feel the effects of stress on your heart, body, mind and soul, pause, reset. You can always begin again. Every breath is a new beginning.

May all beings be filled with lovingkindness

May we view uncertaintity with open hearts

May creativity inspire our every day

May our minds and perspective remain clear

May our bodies be a sanctuary of health

May we see obstacles as opportunties

And remember the beauty within us and around us every day.

Blessings, Tehroma

Art

Creativity resides in learning different ways to see, live, experience and be.

A handfull of my watercolors on a board.

The last book I read was written by David Whyte, 

Crossing The Unknown Sea. 

Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity. 

I read it five years ago. 

Different work. Different identity. 

The thing about yoga and healing is simple yet profound. 

They are not the result or the final expression. 

There is no final expression. 

Yoga is art and science. 

Architecture is as well. 

I am struggling to begin creating my own art again.

And I will.

It’s easier to miss something or a feeling experienced 

or to be stuck then it is to step into something new.

Create new art. The world always needs art. Connection. Hope. Humanity. Beauty.

Knowing that all art is an expression and sharing of an inner world. 

A reflection. Like looking in a mirror. 

One often does not know what one will see surface and be expressed. 

The life of an artist is an adventure in imagination, experience, feeling, expressing and sharing. 

Through sharing, there is an opportunity to connect. 

Through connecting, both within and with others, we are reminded of the unity inherent in our existence.

I am in this place of knowing it is my time to create my own art. 

It’s personal. Architecture made me feel like a magician.

I believe we are all artists and capable of our own unique unfolding magic. 

The art, the expression, the magic has different ways of coming to life, of being birthed into the world. 

One way is no more or less, just different. 

Sometimes it’s easier to stick with what we know. 

The unknown is a reality whether chosen or not. 

Yoga and healing are not an end result.

They are the underlying magic to support an outer expression and life enhancing magic of art in many forms. 

Sometimes it is simply a matter of choosing an art form and taking the plunge.

Creating and seeing a personal creation.

Seeing with the heart.